My tweet in response to this was basically a rushed short-form, so I feel I should elaborate a little.
Your dad's actions? Still inexcusable. Does he genuinely regret it? That's for you to figure out. Would he did it again if time went in a loop and he knew? I'll admit I don't have a *whole* lot of faith in people in this sense in general. Either way, any form of talk or reconciliation's gonna be triggery as all getup. It's up to you if you want to go through that.
Your mom's? Knowing what I know now, well... yes, it's abuse. Ignorant, blind following, but still abuse, because it means all that hatred and fear was blaring into your life from multiple sources in the house. This one? Well... I wouldn't hold my breath. Breaking step with a background like that takes *A LOT*. If she's willing to accept you as an individual, she'll come to you. I'd not make the first move here.
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Your dad's actions? Still inexcusable. Does he genuinely regret it? That's for you to figure out. Would he did it again if time went in a loop and he knew? I'll admit I don't have a *whole* lot of faith in people in this sense in general. Either way, any form of talk or reconciliation's gonna be triggery as all getup. It's up to you if you want to go through that.
Your mom's? Knowing what I know now, well... yes, it's abuse. Ignorant, blind following, but still abuse, because it means all that hatred and fear was blaring into your life from multiple sources in the house. This one? Well... I wouldn't hold my breath. Breaking step with a background like that takes *A LOT*. If she's willing to accept you as an individual, she'll come to you. I'd not make the first move here.