I know we spoke at length about this in person, hon-- but I wanted to add some reinforcement here.

You owe your parents nothing for bringing you into the world and raising you-- and how they treated you growing up was absolutely abuse, conscious or unconscious; even if it wasn't intentional. The effect is the same.

If they cannot love you for who you are, they cannot truly love you.

It is okay to let them go if you need to.